Troubled by a past abortion? We can help.
Abortion, without a doubt, can be one of the most traumatic experiences in a person’s life. The loss of pregnancy through abortion may be far in your past, but the memories remain. You may feel alone, but you’re not! We will walk along side you, assisting you as you work through this difficult time. We know that in many cases the pain of loss may initially be buried; women who have had an abortion often suffer from symptoms of post-abortion grief decades after the experience. We’ve seen abortion trauma surface through relationship difficulties, depression, physical problems, psychological issues, and spiritual struggles .
Surrendering the Secret
First Choice for Women is one of the only nationally trained “Surrendering the Secret” organizations in the state of Indiana. Surrendering the Secret is a 6 step biblical healing model for women who feel they have never completely healed or recovered from an abortion experience, or that a past abortion may be affecting their current quality of life. Surrendering the Secret is a study designed to bring women together who understand the need for seeking peace with the past and desire a better understanding of God’s plan for making the most painful losses of our past work for His glory!
Our mission is to provide a supportive and confidential environment that facilitates healing and restoration from a past abortion while bringing a sense of hope and purpose for the future.
What is post-abortion stress/trauma?
PAS/T is a condition which can occur in both men and women after an abortion experience due to unresolved psychological, physical and spiritual aspects. Family members can also be affected. Symptoms are similar to those in any post-traumatic stress disorder. Basically, it is the personal struggle to work through thoughts and feelings about the abortion and previous pregnancy. The goal is to come to peace with those involved in the decision making process as well as the loss of life. Although some men/women are better equipped to deal with the aftermath of an abortion, EVERYONE is changed by it. As one woman quoted: “Once I laid on that table, I was never the same.” Symptoms of PAS/T may not appear all at once, nor will each person experience all of them, but if you find that you are experiencing between 5 and 7 of the following emotions after an abortion, you might consider seeking help for post abortion stress/trauma. Also note that sometimes these symptoms happen immediately and sometimes they may not surface for years, or even decades following the procedure.
Symptoms of Post Abortion Stress Trauma
If you have experienced an abortion, your life may have been affected in the following ways. We can help.
- abusive behavior
- alcohol and/or drug use
- avoids baby reminders (like baby showers, baby stores, etc.)
- changes in relationships / marriage (70% of relationships/marriages break up within 1 year of an abortion, 90% within 5 years)
- control issues
- crying spells
- difficulty in all types of intimacy
- divides time into “before” and “after” the abortion
- eating disorders
- fails to bond with subsequent children
- loss of interest in sex
- loss of normal sources of pleasure
- marital stress
- need of financial success
- over-protective of living children
- promiscuity or frigidity
- reduced motivation
- self-punishing and / or self-degrading behavior
- sleep disturbances
- strained relationship with living children
- suicidal impulses
- tolerates abusive relationships
- wants atonement / replacement child
We can help, and all services are free and confidential. To schedule an appointment or to speak with a trained peer counselor 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, please call us at (765)286-6060